The myth that you "aren't photogenic"

"But if a mirror ever makes you sad, you should know, that it does not know you,"  

Kabir

I would guess that approximately 80% of my clients say some version of ‘Im awkward in front of the camera’ or ‘Im not very photogenic’

Of course this isn’t at all true and I wonder if this is the legacy of the a cringeworthy school photo where they had patches on the ground of where to put your feet and turn your head a little then BAM the flash right in your eyes resulting in WAIT I wasn’t ready!! But its too late they’ve already moved onto the next kid for their photo.

Or maybe its series of bright flashes- papparazzi style straight into your eyes when your great aunt takes a photo when you’re almost sure to be blinking in the photo and it takes a few seconds for your eyes to readjust.

Or maybe its the way you look at yourself in the mirror, programmed to see ‘flaws’ often these flaws were sold to you by someone who profits from you feeling bad about yourself.

This is the opposite of what you can expect when you work with me. Its not invasive or intrusive, instead its about presence. I love getting to know the people I work with so we will chat about the holiday you’re planning or how excited you are about your first baby arriving. Maybe we will chat about how you took your sleep for granted before becoming a new parent.

There is beauty in the way you hold yourself, the way your hair moves in the wind, Ive practiced anticipating and catching these moments of beauty so you can see what I see.

At worst you can do what I did and close your eyes and hide in the lavender

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The second phrase I hear a lot is ‘my kids are a bit boisterous’

Well of course your children might run around like maniacs - this is to be expected and part of the fun so instead of wanting it to be different lets embrace the moment exactly as it is. Because these moments are fleeting so lets make some magic now.

Contact me to discuss details or to book.

Xoxo

Thank you 2018: You've been WILD

Reflections, intentions and lessons from a lap around the sun

At the end of 2017 I stared to think what I wanted from 2018. I invited a few friends over and we made vision boards. I wasn’t particularly surprised with what I found myself drawn to.

  • Old cameras, Analogue.

  • Iris Apfel.

  • Creative Expression.

  • Simple Luxury.

  • Coffee Rituals.

  • The rhythm of nature.

  • Home grown (herbs, flowers, bread and cows)

In the centre of the board, my word for the year and my way of summing up all of the above while still leaving room for the unexpected. Wild.

I met Gala Darling and Angela Gallo. Ive had coffee dates with some incredible business women. I assisted at a retreat. I spent time in Queenstown eating more Whittakers than I care to admit. I launched my website. I deep dove into my own personal healing work. I cuddled Professor and kissed my husband. We drank wine on the couch in front of the fire. I fell in love with linen dresses (with pockets!) I discovered Korean Sheet Masks. Ive been blessed enough to be invited into homes and hospitals alike to document important births, milestones and moments in time. I binge watched Sense 8. Photographed my first wedding. Found myself a spiritual running buddy. Ive made new friends and farewelled some who I know I had grown apart from. Ive tried, Ive failed and Ive brushed myself off to start again. I left my comfort zone on numerous occasions and made peace with the fact that sometimes its necessary to return to that comfort zone before stepping out again.

The biggest lesson I learnt in 2018 was to stop seeking outside of myself, for validation, for flow, for perfect. For the ‘next level,’ the perfect deal, the perfect mastermind, for 6 figures, or an email list of 5 million people. Of needing to post to social media 3 times a day. I learnt to embrace my way. To share my message in quality over quantity because there are plenty of voices unafraid to share their message and the truth is, I know my message is as important as me. That might sound like a strange thing to say. Did I mean to say my message is more important than me? No, its not more important than me because I needed to have these experiences that I have, I need to have these skills that I have, these interests, this passion. Its not by accident. It’s divinely orchestrated. In order to share this message I have to acknowledge that im worthy regardless of this work. The irony is not lost on me that I was shouting from the rooftops ‘you’re worthy’ without living into it myself. So here is to awareness and stepping into living our best lives however that may look and as my beloved Rilke says:

Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything.

So here is to always living the questions.

Although I am a fan of both brevity, I wasn’t able to refine my intention for 2019 into a single word so instead I’ve chosen two:

Nurture(d) + Nourish(ed) - its how I want to feel, its what I want to provide to others. Its not about food so much as deep, soul nourishment. Are my purchases in line with these values? Does this dollar im spending nourish a fellow woman in business? Does this nourish my future? My community? My creativity? My spirituality? All of my decisions in 2019 will be anchored with these words.

Do you have any new years rituals? Intentions? Have you refined your values? Id love to hear more so feel free to comment. email me or tag me in your instagram post.

xoxo

Wild necklace (+this photo) from my dear friend Esther Weinberg. How sweet is this view from her studio!?

Wild necklace (+this photo) from my dear friend Esther Weinberg. How sweet is this view from her studio!?

Empty House Love

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I was lucky enough to have the opportunity to have a photoshoot with Rebeka’s gorgeous family in a house they had recently finished renovating. The house was sold, the furniture gone and we got to spend an afternoon just playing.

When a mum books her first family session with me, I can guarantee they almost always say some version of ….’my kids can a be a little boisterous’ or.. ‘im worried my toddler isn’t that well behaved.’ Well of course not!! To me, this is part of the fun! Embrace the chaos. The photoshoot is not about everyone sitting facing the camera with a cheesy smile. Instead its about documenting this moment for exactly what it is, a moment.

All presence

All joy

A little chaos

(ok maybe a lot of chaos when we throw a dog or two into the mix as well!)

Want to document your families Wild + Sacred Love? I only have 3 family sessions for 2018 so get in touch if one of these sessions is yours!

Rebeka and her business partner, Kribashini run Build Her Collective that helps women to build the house of their dreams without the overwhelm. They have an online course as well as in-person events - head on over to their website to check it out!

https://buildhercollective.com.au/